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Making Peace

As I travel through life I have learned through experience that the best thing you can do for peace of mind and a healthy body is to make peace with the past.  It is not in our best interest to hold on to past grudges or things that make you angry or sad.

Sometimes there may not be a resolution with others but in helping yourself you have to find a way to move forward and to let it go.  This is never an easy process but one of the first steps is the accept what happened and your responsibility with it.  You may also have to find a way to forgive either yourself of the other person.   Also try not to think or obsess about what has happened since that sucks the joy out the moment you are in now.

Sometimes it just takes time for something or someone to heal and move forward.

Remember you are doing it for yourself not someone else.

~Sara

 

 

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Happy Father’s Day

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A Better Life After Multiple Lessons

 

Jessep Magoon’s Story

I would like to say I’m very grateful for the loving and supporting family I’ve been blessed with. During my teenage years I put my parents through many sleepless nights wondering if I was alive or dead. I’d like to say thank you to my father for raising me and teaching me the important things about being a man. He worked very hard and made sure I always had everything I needed, and he is still there for me to this very day if I need him. My mother loves me like no other person ever has, she prays for me daily and I can still feel her heartache for years past in her voice. My parents did the best they could, and that wasn’t enough for me. I chose to leave home around 16, not because it was bad, but because I was addicted to the chase of finding something better. The lifestyle I wanted wasn’t something allowed in either of their homes and off I went. I was a travelling man as they say. I was blessed with landing in Southern California, The Panhandle of Florida, and everywhere in between. All that mattered at the time was what made me feel good. As time went on, the travels and the excitement started becoming work. I just wanted to be carefree and have fun forever…the mind of a 20 year old. By this time I had burned most of the bridges behind me on the journey and didn’t think twice about ever rebuilding them. I had officially started becoming sick of being sick and tired. I didn’t know how to have a productive relationship, maintain a friendship, or really even care about anything or anyone other than me. The road was becoming pretty lonely, and all my old tricks quit working…the charm was wearing off. I knew then, something had to change and it started changing without me even realizing it was happening. All these circumstances, consequences, and the worlds troubles being thrown at me started sinking in…maybe this is actually my own fault why this keeps happening, this is what I started thinking, the seed was planted for sure. I struggled for a year or so deciding what kind of life really meant something to me…and it wasn’t the one I was living at the time. I remember the day it happened. I was in jail for my 3rd drunk driving, and had been there for almost 3 months already knowing I might be facing prison time, I wasn’t that cool dude anymore I thought I was…I turned into a scared boy. I didn’t know what to do, I was laying in my bunk and started crying, the next thing I knew I was on the concrete floor on my knees begging for forgiveness. That was the day my life changed forever. I knew at that very moment I was no longer a prisoner to myself. Over the next 7 months I found inner peace and maybe for the first time in over a decade actually took responsibility for my actions. I was defeated and I knew it, I could no longer live how I was and expect different results, it just wasn’t going to happen. I didn’t give up, but I gave in for sure…I was changing, period. I slowly started making progress and started living life on life’s terms with the understanding everything was going to be fine. I met some new people that had traveled similar roads and had the answers I needed. They changed and seemed to be happy, and free without the influence of anything other than their inner being. WOW, what a concept I thought people couldn’t be happy just because, well I was wrong. My life ended up changing for the better and all the old ways of thinking slowly faded away. I still had the defects of character in my pocket and let them shine and still do today. I guess that’s why they call us Humans. I started getting some “clean” living under my belt, and all those bridges started rebuilding themselves actually. It amazed me that people actually liked me, and wanted to be around me again…I was regaining some trust and it felt great. People trusting me again was the stepping stone that I needed to continue growing. I didn’t realize how important trust was until I lost it from everyone around me. I stole from my own family, and they actually still loved me and started trusting me again…hmmm, maybe those were the people that actually cared about me to begin with? Funny how things go full circle and we usually end up with what we needed and started with. I wanted something else, I chased it for years, and finally realized the temporary satisfaction wasn’t fulfilling. I’m thankful for my past today, it reminds daily of who I can be again anytime. My yesterdays were empty, lonely, and sad. My today’s are blessed with joy, happiness, and peace. The only thing I do differently is love myself, so that I can love others. My family all waited for me patiently to figure life out, when I came crawling back they had open arms, what a blessing that was. I’ve rebuilt almost all the bridges in the past 10 years or so, a few didn’t need rebuilding and that’s fine. I’m good with it. I love my father for being a hard working middle class man, I love my mother for being a mother that shows extreme understanding and concern, which is the highest form of love in my world. I’m constantly reminded by her phone calls that I sometimes ignore for days, that she will never stop loving me. All she wants is to hear my voice, and have me tell her I’m doing good. That’s it. I’ve found out there’s actually a lot of people in my life that just want to hear my voice and have me tell them I’m doing good, and that makes me smile BIG. I don’t have much to offer when it comes to material things, but God has allowed me to venture out to see what really matters back at home…LOVE. My son is 3 years old and that little man is something I actually started praying for when I was still a kid. I just wanted to be a good dad for as long as I can remember. That was it, I knew that would be the missing piece to the crazy puzzle of my life. My prayer was answered and all the little things that came with being a father that I didn’t ask for…I now understand how my dad felt when I walked away. Life’s lessons have been very painful for me, but I needed them all to happen exactly how they have, or I wouldn’t be here typing this. My story would be different. I’m not unique, thousands of people have my story, not everyone has the same outcome. Many are still suffering, dying, or praying on the concrete floor in a jail cell. I don’t have to do that today. I’m thankful, my family is thankful, and my son will someday understand through my actions. If I have one foot in yesterday, and one foot in tomorrow, I’ll end up pissing al lover today. Its not worth it to me not to live in the moment, and live it to the best of my ability. All my people, you know who you are…I love you. ~ Jessep Magoon

I have to say that Jessep Magoon has a very inspiring facebook page that I have been following for a long time. I find him to be very inspiring and I love how much he nurtures and cares for his son.  Check him out at  https://www.facebook.com/SmileBigLoveEverybody?fref=ts

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Inspiring Stories Coming Soon

I believe we get more inspiration and motivation when we hear other peoples’ success stories.  I have decided to once a week post an inspiring story about someone who has overcome an obstacle while staying positive or looking at the brighter side of life.  I have a few stories so far to post but I am currently looking for more.  If you have a story you want to share with me please email me at  onthebrighterside@hotmail.com.  Thank you so much for following this blog and being so supportive I am very grateful for all of you.  I appreciate all the support and comments.  Stay tuned for the first story in a few hours.

Thank you and STAY POSITIVE   ~Sara

 

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I may not like you, but I will find something to like about you

All of us come across people who we like and those that we don’t like.  With so many people in the world you aren’t going to like everyone.  My mother used to say ” Sara, you don’t like all the dresses in a dress shop people are the same way”   So what do we do with those people in our lives who we don’t like?  We have them at church, work, school and our community.  Well,  here is a positive way to go about it.  I try to find something that I like or admire about everyone.  Sometimes this is hard, sometimes this is easy.  Just like the dress shop I may like the fabrics, colors or accessories I just don’t like it as a whole. Try looking at others the same way as the dress shop.

I have found that seeking the positive in others is most  helpful for me  in work situations.  We all know the challenges of working  with others and getting a job well done. When I am seeking a quality that I like and focusing  on it, it  helps me to have a pleasant  attitude and to feel  positive about that person, this then leads to a better working relationship.

Keep seeking the best in others and watch how relationships change as well as your feelings towards them.

Well, that is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week.  ~Sara

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Realizing what we can and can’t control can make a difference

There are times when I think it is best to sit back and look at a problem from different  angles.  I sometimes have to remember what I can and can’t control.  In this world we really only control what we think, feel and how we act.  Many of the things we say and do can have an influence on others,  but it can never make them do, feel or act in a  certain way.  Sometimes it is  best  to make changes about how you feel towards something or how you choose to act towards a certain person.  When we change our thinking about a situation we  find other options to fix it or accept it.  When we choose to act differently towards another person it can change the relationship and sometimes improve it.   When we choose to not let the words or actions of another affect how we feel   then again the problem or situation has less of an impact on us.

Here is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week. ~Sara

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Thankful for Family

As the American holiday of Thanksgiving approaches I thought it would be an awesome time to show appreciation for family.  We lean on our families in difficult times.  They are the place we go when we are searching for truth and honesty. They are what keeps us up when we are feeling down.  We can fight with them and always  receive  their forgiveness. They are there when we need help and support.   They know who we truly are yet love us anyway.  They are the unit that continues to grow and never fades away.  Take a moment to think about your family and all that they mean to you.  I know that I am truly blessed.  My unit may be small but its not the numbers but the love, support and acceptance that matters.

That is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week.  Happy Thanksgiving. ~Sara

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Self Love♥

Self love is vital for a happy and fulfilling life.  Self love is attained through a positive relationship with yourself.  Ask yourself,  how do you feel about you?  What do you think about you?  How well do you care for you?  These are all important questions that reflect how you care and feel about yourself.

Self love is a process like any other relationship except this is a relationship with yourself.  Think about a relationship you have with someone you love, a spouse or a child.  You have accepted them for who they are, correct?  You take the good  with the bad, you are forgiving.  You care about their feelings, you don’t let others take advantage or hurt them.  Now look at yourself.  Do you do these things for you as well?

YOU are important YOU matter.  It is important that you take care and love yourself.  Discover who you are and what you stand for.  Accept and appreciate yourself for all your wonderful qualities.  No one is perfect we are all unique.   When you start to take better care and love yourself , you will feel better and happier.  You’ll  gain more confidence and self esteem. Your relationship will grow and you will love yourself more and more.

That is my STAY POSITIVE  thought for the week. ♥ Sara

Image taken from http://dilldosti.blogspot.com/2012/03/love-me-like.html

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