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Detachment

by Sara Wales

What is detachment? I see it as a way of pulling back so that you don’t get hurt or caught up in the drama. It is necessary when you need to protect yourself. Buddha looked at detachment as a way to protect oneself from suffering. Detachment is neither kind or unkind, it is neutral.

If you are involved with someone who has issues with addiction it is necessary to detach so that you do not get caught up and become sick with the addict. Over the past few months I have been struggling with this. There is someone I love very much who is an addict and I have had to learn to detach so that I can bring some normalcy and control back into my life. I have had to learn what I can and can not control. This is not easy and you can very easily attach again and try to fix something which is not in your control to fix. I have to keep reminding myself that I control what I say, feel and how I behave. I have had to learn what is my problem and what is not my problem. It is very easy to lose yourself when dealing with an addict. What has been very helpful to me is this quote, “You yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection” ~Buddha In dealing with addiction I have to remember to care for myself as well, this is also very important if you are a caregiver. Caregivers tend to give the best to their patient and lose sight of caring for themselves.

On the brighterside I am thankful for the lesson I am learning and I know that this only makes me stronger. Life can be a struggle but when you pull through you can look back and see how much better you have become as a person.

~Sara

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Your Priorities

by Sara Wales

It has been many many months since I have written on this site, perhaps it is because life is always so busy and other things always take a priority. Writing I think is the best way to keep you grounded and for me aware of what is going on in my internal environment. Thank you everyone who reads this site, my goal has always been to put something positive out there to help someone. Perhaps the thought this week is to think about your priorities and what is important to you. It is important to nurture what you love ❤️ and to have balance in all things that you do. I do enjoy this blog and it is time to get back to my weekly writing.

Enjoy your week everyone and think about what is important to you and how you prioritize it😀

~Sara

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Making Peace

by Sara Wales

As I travel through life I have learned through experience that the best thing you can do for peace of mind and a healthy body is to make peace with the past. It is not in our best interest to hold on to past grudges or things that make you angry or sad.

Sometimes there may not be a resolution with others but in helping yourself you have to find a way to move forward and to let it go. This is never an easy process but one of the first steps is the accept what happened and your responsibility with it. You may also have to find a way to forgive either yourself of the other person. Also try not to think or obsess about what has happened since that sucks the joy out the moment you are in now.

Sometimes it just takes time for something or someone to heal and move forward.

Remember you are doing it for yourself not someone else.

~Sara

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Take time to relax

by Sara Wales

With summer on its way I want to encourage everyone to take time out of their busy schedule and just relax. Do something you enjoy no matter how silly or simple. Relaxing helps the body and soul replenish itself. You will feel renewed and refreshed after a break. Hope everyone has a happy summer. ~Sara

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Happy Thanksgiving

by Sara Wales

Here we are again my favorite holiday. I don’t have to buy gifts, fuss with wrapping them or be concerned if people will like their presents. No hussle no bussle. Just a wonderful time to relax enjoy good food and loving family. I also like to use this time to reflect on all the things I am grateful for such as my health, family and my home. Not just Thanksgiving but everyday it is important to take a moment to be thankful for what you have. Life is full of so many changes and challenges it is important to enjoy and be thankful for where you are and what you have. Hope everyone has a wonderful holiday and THANK YOU for taking the time to read my blog.

~STAY POSITIVE

Sara

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by Sara Wales

So in the next few months I will turn 45. Okay, so where did all that time go? I was just 20 yesterday. My mind thinks I am 12 but my body is realizing that I am getting older. I see additional wrinkles, body parts are heading south and the middle age spread has occurred, never mind the raging hormones. This is all just part of the aging process. I may not like losing my youth but I am loving living this life and all it has to offer.

In my life there have been influential people that have been older than me and I have watched them embrace life in such a way that I never forgot how they lived or what they did. How awesome to have a grandma that can go skiing with you. Or a grandpa what can roller blade with you. I have seen older people that embrace life and live it fully. They are never fearful to take vacations away from their home, learn new things or to step out of their comfort zone. I often wonder if this is a lesson that we learn later rather than earlier in life. Either way I am thankful that I have realized this now.

So my positive thought is “Embrace life, live it to the fullest, have fun, be kind and enjoy”

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Victory Over Cancer

by Sara Wales

As I watched Danni battle cancer I noticed how very strong and determined she was to survive. She always smiled and was wiling to help even when she struggled to carry her own work load, she was always there for her coworkers and those who needed a helping hand. Here is her story.

My name is Daniella Spelman in May 2012 I was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer. I was terrified and thought I was going to die. All I could think about was my family, my mother who we just build an addition on to our house so that she could live with us. My daughter who was still in college and my husband Pete, what would he do without me? I had to fight and not let cancer take my life. I had a grueling surgery and 6 months of chemotherapy. Everyday I put my faith in God and prayed that he would pull me through. I was blessed to have my family who supported and cheered for me daily. I had friends who let me express my feelings and cry if I needed too. I had a positive attitude and took each day as it came. During my chemotherapy I would take a week off and then go back to work. I attempted to keep my lifestyle as it was before my diagnosis of cancer. I am happy to say that after all this I have won and I beat cancer. Everyday I am grateful to be alive.

Cancer changed my life. It taught me what is important and what is not. It also showed me who my real friends are. I have decided to do my part and give back to the world. I have organized with the American Cancer Foundation a “Relay for Life” (Team Sunshine) that will take place on June 14, 2013 in my hometown of Southbridge. I want to raise money and support so that someday we can put an end to cancer. Please see the link below for more information and how you can donate or help.

Thank you

Danni

http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR?fr_id=52047&pg=team&team_id=1367812

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Ageless Soul

by Sara Wales

After spending a week in a nursing home caring for a close friend I came to realize that we are all very young on the inside. None of us want to age or grow old. Unfortunately this is part of the aging process and is meant to teach us a valuable lesson. I ponder what that lesson may be. Perhaps it is a chance for others to give back to you and show you how much they care for you and your well being. This of course could be different for each person. I hope my week with my friend showed him that I cared for him and his well being. We must remember just because someone’s body is older doesn’t mean that their mental state is older. I do believe our soul remains “forever young”.

Not quite a positive thought for the week but something to ponder. ~Sara

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Choices

by Sara Wales

Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about choices. How many times do you hear someone say they “don’t have a choice”? This can refer to a job, family situation or friends. We always have a choice. We can choose to stay in a job we dislike, choose to stay with someone, choose what we want to do. People will say they don’t have a choice because it is easier to stay where they are at and not make a major move or shake things up. It is also easier to say you don’t have a choice because choosing causes you to take responsibility and accountability for your actions. When we make the decision to have a choice we give ourselves freedom and power over our actions. Think about it next time you comment that you don’t have a choice, remember that you do and that you are choosing to do something because of the consequences and outcome that it brings. Remember having a choice gives you freedom. Have a wonderful week. ~Sara

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Capture the Sense of Abundance and Watch Your World Change.

by Sara Wales

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Here is the success story of one of my favorite authors J.R. Rain.

In October 2004, my car was repossessed. I lived in a basement storage room for four months. I

stole food from grocery stores and from my roommates who lived in the real house above (I am reminded of the movie classic “Metropolis”). My brother eventually gave me $500 that saved my butt.

In the summer of 2005, I declared bankruptcy. I owed almost $70,000.

In April 2009, I moved to a single-wide trailer in Washington that I bought for $500.00.

For most of 2009, I primarily received free food from the local Help House, which gave me two bags of groceries each week, including dog food for Sadie.

In August 2009, I published Moon Dance on Kindle.

9 months later, in April 2010, Moon Dance hit #1 on the Amazon vampire charts.

Beginning in April 2011, I had the #1, #2 and #3 best selling vampire novels on Kindle for four straight months.

These days, I no longer live in a single-wide trailer. I live in a three-story home that overlooks Puget Sound.

Many have asked what I did to help turn my life around. A lot had to do with timing. After all, I had a number of books ready for Kindle when Kindle opened their doors to indie authors. Except I didn’t have success on Kindle immediately. It took 9 months to see my first wave of success.

In January 2010, I bought a book called MONEY, AND THE LAW OF ATTRACTION by Esther and Jerry Hicks. I put the exercises within the book to work. Each day, I focused on removing the feeling of “lack” from my life, and replace it with a feeling of “abundance”. Trust me, this was hard to do, especially when I was waiting in line for free food at the Help House. But Law of Attraction doesn’t need much from you. All it needs is a few minutes of your time each day. During these few minutes, your job is to take your mind off your present worries, and put your mind onto abundance. Or, more accurately, onto what it would “feel” like to have abundance. Your goal is to capture that “feeling”. That’s it. Capture that feeling and live within it for a few minutes each day. Play games with it. Write out how it would feel. Write pretend checks for things you want to buy. Weird, I know, but such exercises help capture the “feeling” of abundance. Next, make a conscious effort to refrain talking about what you don’t have.

Then be ready for inspiration to strike. Be ready to take inspired action. Don’t push anything. Wait for a great idea. Wait for inspiration. Wait for that wonderful nudge from God and the Universe. That nudge means that’s something wonderful is waiting for you.

I wish you success in all things. Remember, you are loved more than you know. It’s no accident that you are here on this earth. You are no accident. Life is no accident. Enjoy the journey, my friends.

Much love,
J.R.

You can find JR’s books on Kindle or Nook. His best selling series Vampire For Hire can also be found at your local Barnes and Noble. Check out his fan page at www.facebook.com/pages/JR-Rain-Mystery-Author/313664350623 or his website at http://www.jrrain.com/

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