On the Brighter Side

Realizing what we can and can’t control can make a difference

by Sara Wales

There are times when I think it is best to sit back and look at a problem from different angles. I sometimes have to remember what I can and can’t control. In this world we really only control what we think, feel and how we act. Many of the things we say and do can have an influence on others, but it can never make them do, feel or act in a certain way. Sometimes it is best to make changes about how you feel towards something or how you choose to act towards a certain person. When we change our thinking about a situation we find other options to fix it or accept it. When we choose to act differently towards another person it can change the relationship and sometimes improve it. When we choose to not let the words or actions of another affect how we feel then again the problem or situation has less of an impact on us.

Here is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week. ~Sara

A sunny ray to ponder

Nominated for the Sunshine Award

by Sara Wales

The Sunshine Award is given to bloggers who positively and creatively inspire other bloggers. I am happy to have been nominated by http://utesmile.wordpress.com/

Thank you so very much 🙂

The Rules

Once you are nominated, you must link the blog post to the person that nominated you.

Then you must answer some questions about yourself

nominate 10 other bloggers and link back to their pages.

Once that is done, you must post a comment to each nominee’s page to let them know they have been nominated.

The Questions and my answers are:

1. Who is your favourite philosopher?

I really don’t have one.

2. What is your favourite number?

Number 6, the day I was born

3. What is your favourite animal?

I love cats and dogs

4. What are your Facebook and Twitter?

my facebook is/http://www.facebook.com/pages/On-The-Brighter-Side/270860272931183

5. What is your favourite time of day?

I love the mornings, it is when I have the most creativity and energy

6. What is your favourite holiday?

I love Thanksgiving since it is a time to spend with friends and family and it doesn’t involve shopping or money

7. What is your favourite physical activity?

Walking

8. What is your favourite non alcoholic drink?

I love diet coke

9. What is your favourite flower?

A water lily or lotus, there is something very magical to go canoeing and seeing them in the middle of the pond

10. What is your passion?

I enjoy writing, reading, the study of the supernatural and psychology

On to the nominees (in no particular order):

http://toughmindedoptimism.wordpress.com/

http://lightforlifewordpress.wordpress.com/

http://utesmile.wordpress.com/

http://peaceflash.wordpress.com

http://warriorpoetwisdom.com/

http://knowmyworth.com

I am new to the blogging world so here are 6

I appreciate not everyone has the time or inclination. You can just feel contented that your site is recognized as being worthy of an award.

Nomination

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Thankful for Family

by Sara Wales

As the American holiday of Thanksgiving approaches I thought it would be an awesome time to show appreciation for family. We lean on our families in difficult times. They are the place we go when we are searching for truth and honesty. They are what keeps us up when we are feeling down. We can fight with them and always receive their forgiveness. They are there when we need help and support. They know who we truly are yet love us anyway. They are the unit that continues to grow and never fades away. Take a moment to think about your family and all that they mean to you. I know that I am truly blessed. My unit may be small but its not the numbers but the love, support and acceptance that matters.

That is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week. Happy Thanksgiving. ~Sara

A sunny ray to ponder

A key to happiness is to think positive ♥

by Sara Wales

A sunny ray to ponder

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Hold Your Head Up High

by Sara Wales

Do you ever watch how people walk into a crowded room? Do they stand tall and proud or do they look down at the ground avoiding eye contact? You can learn a lot about a person by the way they walk and present themselves. People walking tall, making eye contact have an air of confidence, while those looking down show a sense of insecurity or shyness. Even though it can be very intimidating to walk into a crowded area with others watching, I am going to encourage you to stand tall and walk with your head held high. Walk with a smile that radiates openness and confidence. I understand it can be hard but a little trick to use is to pretend you are a queen or king and the people around you love and adore you. Sometimes pretending to act a certain way helps you gain confidence for the next experience. Another trick if you are very uncomfortable is to repeat positive affirmations while you are doing something. Here are a few for this situation. “Keep my head held high, smile be open and others will too.” or “I am a unique and wonderful being, if I smile and be open others will too. Always remember you are a wonderful, unique and one of a kind who should always hold your head up high and be proud for who you are and what you have to offer.

Here is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week.

Self help

Selflessness taught by a child

by Sara Wales

I do believe we are here to learn lessons, love and care for one another. Becoming a parent was one of my biggest lessons of selflessness. My life became all about my daughter and her needs not so much my own. As a mother I think you are gifted with a certain ability to tune into your child. When your child hurts you hurt, your heart is tugged by all of their life lessons. I found that there are so many things I couldn’t teach her but that living life would. I became selfless. It doesn’t matter if I had new clothes but my daughter always had them. At Christmas there were times when my husband and I would exchange very little but we always made sure our daughter had enough. We have always found a way to pay for summer camps, braces and the extras that she has wanted or needed. We found so much joy in giving to her. Volunteering in school and the extra activities were a labor of love no matter how tired I was physically or emotionally. As she and I grow older I am very thankful for all my efforts. I see a beautiful, intelligent, warm and loving person emerging. I believe in time she will become one of my best friends. The most important thing to Dan and I has always been to have a warm, loving and healthy relationship with our daughter.

A little bit about me

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Is that a random act of “pure kindness”?

by Sara Wales

After reviewing an interesting post about kindness from my friend T.K. I started to really think about kindness and what it means to me. There are different types of kindness in this world. Sometimes we are kind because we feel obligated to do so based on family or business. Sometimes our act of kindness is expected because, well, without it, we will look like a jerk. Other times we are kind because it will get us some where in life. We will be recognized as being the ‘nice guy’ or the ‘good person’. So the question is “is this really kindness?” Well the dictionary defines kindness as “The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate”. So then yes based on the dictionary then that is kindness.

I think then that there are two types of kindness one from our soul and one from the ego. I think that “pure kindness” is something from your soul. It is an act that is done selflessly and is given without any expectation, obligation or recognition. I believe as people we do this time and time again but it is not always seen. Many people donate anonymously, looking for nothing in return. Many people volunteer and help others. We smile, or go out of or way for someone else. Look at all we do for our families, sometimes it’s not out of any obligation or expectation but just pure kindness or love.

That is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week

Sara

A sunny ray to ponder

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A Thankful Start

by Sara Wales

I think the best way to wake up every morning is to say “thank you ” for all the people and things that are in your life. I think it is important to take stock of what you have and what you have accomplished and to be thankful for it. So many times we are just going through life and fail to realized just how fortunate we really are. We tend to compare our lives with those around us and miss out on what is right in front of us. Next time you rise in the morning (grab the coffee) and take a moment to be thankful for where you are and what you have. I bet it will help make a positive start for your day.

That is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week.

Inspiration

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Take a gander into your past.

by Sara Wales

As you move forward in life take a gander into your past so you can see how far you have come.

I think it is very important to take time to reflect on what you have learned, accomplished and created. Treat reflecting on your past like a walk on the beach. Picture yourself as you walk on the beach and you see a place that you want to visit. It looks close but it’s really far away. You keep walking and walking until you finally reach it. You look back and “wow” can’t believe I’ve walked that far. Look at your past in the same way. Look at all you have learned, your accomplishments, your family and friends. Reflect on all the positive things that have brought you to this point in your life. It is never helpful to look back with regrets or self defeating thoughts. See all the positive. Every experience is a lesson to teach us about ourselves and others. Every lesson has brought us to where were are today.

This is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week.

A sunny ray to ponder

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It’s Okay to Ask for Help…

by Sara Wales

“When I need help I ask, when others need help I give it” Sara

Many people feel that asking for assistance is a sign of weakness. I believe it is a sign of strength. When you ask for help whether on a project, to move furniture or advice on a problem, you are acknowledging the fact that you have limitations and that you need others. We are all very knowledgeable in certain areas but not in all, so we need each other.

Sometimes there are very stubborn people in the world (like myself) who resist the urge to ask for help and do it all themselves. I believe at times this is okay because it pushes us to learn and grow. However when you begin to stumble, feel burned out, or your project isn’t going well it’s important to acknowledge it and realize it is okay to”ask” and most people are more than willing to lend a helping hand.

On the flip side there are also people in this world who are always asking for help and never learn to to do things for themselves. Those people I believe are selling themselves short. A little struggle is good, it helps us to grow and learn.It is best to keep a balance. Attempt things on your own first, if you find you are at a standstill acknowledge your needs and ask for some help.

Here is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week.

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