As I watched Danni battle cancer I noticed how very strong and determined she was to survive. She always smiled and was wiling to help even when she struggled to carry her own work load, she was always there for her coworkers and those who needed a helping hand. Here is her story.
My name is Daniella Spelman in May 2012 I was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer. I was terrified and thought I was going to die. All I could think about was my family, my mother who we just build an addition on to our house so that she could live with us. My daughter who was still in college and my husband Pete, what would he do without me? I had to fight and not let cancer take my life. I had a grueling surgery and 6 months of chemotherapy. Everyday I put my faith in God and prayed that he would pull me through. I was blessed to have my family who supported and cheered for me daily. I had friends who let me express my feelings and cry if I needed too. I had a positive attitude and took each day as it came. During my chemotherapy I would take a week off and then go back to work. I attempted to keep my lifestyle as it was before my diagnosis of cancer. I am happy to say that after all this I have won and I beat cancer. Everyday I am grateful to be alive.
Cancer changed my life. It taught me what is important and what is not. It also showed me who my real friends are. I have decided to do my part and give back to the world. I have organized with the American Cancer Foundation a “Relay for Life” (Team Sunshine) that will take place on June 14, 2013 in my hometown of Southbridge. I want to raise money and support so that someday we can put an end to cancer. Please see the link below for more information and how you can donate or help.
After spending a week in a nursing home caring for a close friend I came to realize that we are all very young on the inside. None of us want to age or grow old. Unfortunately this is part of the aging process and is meant to teach us a valuable lesson. I ponder what that lesson may be. Perhaps it is a chance for others to give back to you and show you how much they care for you and your well being. This of course could be different for each person. I hope my week with my friend showed him that I cared for him and his well being. We must remember just because someone’s body is older doesn’t mean that their mental state is older. I do believe our soul remains “forever young”.
Not quite a positive thought for the week but something to ponder. ~Sara
Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about choices. How many times do you hear someone say they “don’t have a choice”? This can refer to a job, family situation or friends. We always have a choice. We can choose to stay in a job we dislike, choose to stay with someone, choose what we want to do. People will say they don’t have a choice because it is easier to stay where they are at and not make a major move or shake things up. It is also easier to say you don’t have a choice because choosing causes you to take responsibility and accountability for your actions. When we make the decision to have a choice we give ourselves freedom and power over our actions. Think about it next time you comment that you don’t have a choice, remember that you do and that you are choosing to do something because of the consequences and outcome that it brings. Remember having a choice gives you freedom. Have a wonderful week. ~Sara
Everyone has days when it seems like nothing is working out to your benefit. The boss is mad, you had a fight in the morning with your spouse or your child. You are down or feel frustrated. You keep making mistake after mistake. We all have days like this. Thank goodness it is not like this everyday. When we are having a bad day remember to take a breath and keep thinking positive. There are times when I have to keep repeating the same positive thoughts just to get me through. Remember tomorrow is a new day and things will improve and you will be okay. This is my STAY POSITIVE thought for the week. ~Sara
There are times when we are put in situations that challenge our feelings, morals and ethics. The decision we must make is a tough one and may put us in the line of fire with friends, colleagues, family or neighbors. How many of you have been put in this position? I am sure we all have at one time or another. Some people make their decisions based on other’s opinions or thoughts. Some people fear standing alone for what they believe in and tend to get lost following the crowd. I am here to tell you that it is OKAY to stand alone for what you believe in. We need people who are willing to take a stand for what they believe. Just one person doing this can make a difference and inspire courage and change.
That is my STAY POSITIVE thought for this week.
Story by Darick Reed
Hi. My name is Darick Reed. I am a 36 year old recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I have been homeless and listed as a missing person. I struggle with anxiety and depression. I have failed in business, and I am severely in debt. I have let down countless friends and family members. I turned my back on my own talents and dreams. I nearly gave up on myself, because I believed I was a failure. So I hid from everything. For ten years.
It took enough pain and despair for me to figure it out. It was FEAR. I was afraid of everything; success, relationships, being alone, dealing with my emotions, criticism, failure…
Today I accept full responsibility for my past, and it is time for fear to understand that I am back in charge. My future has been on hold for way too long. I am going to turn my life around, and it all begins RIGHT NOW.
I am declaring A WAR ON FEAR. I am going to do what I want to do. Starting a blog is one. Helping people is another… I will find a way.
How about you? Do you have your own argument with fear?
Are you really doing the things you’re passionate about, or are you hiding like I was?
How about we gang up on fear together and take over the world.
Because If I can do it, so can you.
The Me Against Fear Revolution begins now.
So put your boots on, fear soldier. I am glad you are here.
Come and join Darick with his war on fear!!! https://www.facebook.com/MeAgainstFear
I wanted to share this. Thank you so much Abhishek Kumar Singh for writing this
“ON THE BRIGHTER SIDE”
today let me take you away,
from this world
no , not too far with this steady pace
a place , a space , a palace
so bright , perfect
and apart from the dark
where , there is no cuffed heart
-stucked in riddles of dos’ and donts’
where we can breathe
the airs of holyart
and where calmness never arrives
for the depart
let me take you away,
from this world
where we ,hear what the world -audibly sounds ?
where , we can see the world of us -all around
and where no more we’re bound
with the sounds that surrounds us !
in this world ,
that we could’ve earlier found
let me take you away,
from this world
where our skin could feel the showers
and where ,
we can smell ,flora in a gust
where , iron stays away from rust
theres’ neither the deception nor disgust
where , there’s only ,
only the satisfactions’ lust !
and we can taste the elixir in ,
in the poisons’ gush
wheres’ only , only -the silents’ rush
let me take you away,
from this world
where , we love our rags and
adore the music of this perfect world ,
that i’ve unchained from my torn bags
in a manner you all , havent’ heard !
where , we can paint the sun
that could set beyond our words
and where , we can compose
this scene with,
the rhythm -of airborne birds
nothigs’ bad , where nothings’ absurd
cuz’ there ,
the dark blows away
just by a spark in rains
and our lifes’ carton -no more contain
the eternal pains
and where ,
evil in this world , no more remains
no more he reigns
let me take you away,
from this world – let me take you away
from this dark , on the brighter side !
-thanks to you ” sara wales “
Here is my story as to why I started my facebook page called On the Brighter Side. I have to say that I started my blog for the same reasons and also to help improve my writing. I find it easy to write quotes or little blips but it is more of a challenge for me to write my thoughts or longer stories.
The creation of Facebook has brought so much love, joy and connection into my life. I am so thankful for its invention. Without it I wouldn’t have this wonderful story to tell you.
I created my page “On the Brighter Side” out of a deep need to help others, to be creative and as an outlet for me to just be me. I love being a wife and mother but with my daughter growing up and becoming less dependent on me, I could feel a change in what I needed for myself. I had a booming career at one time, but it took a backseat due to the commitment I felt to be the best Mom I could be, but again as things change so did my own needs. I was and am still employed at very large dental office but I have always felt that my presence is undervalued. I have never felt part of the team or that I was making any kind of impact to help others or propel the practice forward like I had with my past employers. Having the need to make a difference and help somewhere I turned to Facebook. I am an avid reader and received a Kindle for Christmas from my husband. I began reading multiple books from independent authors. I saw that they had Facebook pages and I began to interact and express my appreciation for their writing. I soon became friendly with one author in particular. I enjoyed encouraging and helping him with his work. One of his books was not selling well and he seemed almost like he was about to give up so I began encouraging him and attempting to help him realized how very gifted and talented he really was. After several months I was truly shocked to see that in one of his books he wrote kind words about me in his dedication. I was amazed that due to my kindness and wanting to be encouraging I had actually helped someone. Someone actually took what I said and it helped to empower them to achieve something. I was truly amazed. I began offering more support and making several more author friends. I truly felt I was making a difference but I wanted to do more. I saw all the interaction on their fan pages and decided to create my own.
“On the Brighter Side” was born August 2011. At the time I decided this would be a place where I would keep inspiring quotes, pictures etc and share them with my fans. Little did I know that I was on a journey of self enlightenment. I made my page a place where everyone is important and I show that by responding to every comment. I respond with a “like” or a kind word. I made it my mission that I would share things that warmed my heart or made me feel good. I also felt very strongly that my page would be about others, not a place for me to vent or talk about my private life. I began buying all kinds of quote and self help books, and I began exploring other inspirational Facebook pages. All this research and posting slowly began to change me in more ways than one.
I have always been the type of person who if I really wanted something bad enough I found a way to get it. I have always tried to look at the brighter side of life and learn from my mistakes, embarrassment and heartache. I will admit my fear is really what has held me back from many opportunities in my life. Believe it or not my page is what has been the pumice to my soul. It has encouraged me to let my light shine.
Spending about 2-3 hours a day reading and writing about positivity, I must say it began to rub off and everyday I felt better, I felt happier, I felt like it is okay to just be me no matter what. As I began to feel this on a day by day basis, I believe I became more accepting of myself and I felt happier. I began to care less and less what people thought and more about what I thought. I was friendlier, more out going and more willing to help out others. I was becoming liberated. I just needed to shine my soul with a little bit of self confidence. All of this can sound very selfish but I believe it is not. When I am happier and feel free I am willing to give so much more of my time and energy to those around me. I am always making a conscious effort to be helpful and kind to someone else. I must also acknowledge another awesome thing that my page has brought into my life and that is the sense of connection. My fans may not realize this but I have found encouragement, friendship and support from other page owners. The other page owners have also encouraged me to be a better page owner. I am more aware of page etiquette, sharing and what is respectable in the Facebook community. By trying to encourage others and help others I really in turn helped myself without realizing it until later. The quote by James M. Barrie really is true “Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves”. I really have done this. I want to express that my fans have really made a tremendous impact on me as well. I have been encouraged since day one with all the likes and comments. It was so motivating to see that people liked what I had to say and liked my ideas. I let myself shine and the world accepted and encouraged me.
The positive reinforcement I have felt from fans, friends and other page owners has motivated me to compliment my page by writing a book. I am in the process of writing my first inspirational book. My hope is to inspire others to find the light within them. Everyone here is important, everyone matters. I believe that if everyone just accepted themselves and loved who they are then the world could be a better place. People would feel better, they could achieve what they want to achieve, whether it is small or large it doesn’t matter. Once you realize you have this power within your reach you can make great things happen. The biggest obstacle I think is to just believe in you. Hopefully my page and my new book will continue to help and motivate others along with myself. I want to express that I have been completely out of my comfort zone with this process. It is always scary to be in the public’s eye and much easier to stay hidden. But in order to grow and learn new things I must push myself to attempt new challenges. My goal is to have my book available December 2012.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I appreciate the opportunity to be able to share it in this venue. I hope it encourages you to find your own inner light and to realize how truly amazing and wonderful you are. Once you believe in yourself, have passion and work hard anything is possible.